Kink, BDSM and Fetish by Mistress Circe
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Kink, BDSM and Fetish: Demonstrations and Explanations
Ideas around sex have changed and evolved over the decades. We’ve started to strip the concept of its original shame and secrecy. There’s a long way to go, though. We still hold many fears, myths and questions around sex. On Indie Cam Fans, we think educating ourselves is the first step into owning our sexuality. The more you know about sex, the better you will enjoy it freely. In this article, we want to tackle a topic that has gotten popular in recent years: Kink, BDSM and Fetish.
The BDSM category is featured on almost all adult sites. You’ve probably seen it many times, maybe browsed through it or you already are a BDSM enthusiast. In any case, there’s a chance you are using Kink, BDSM and Fetish interchangeably. Today, we will talk about the difference between each and explore some practices in depth. By the end of it, we hope you have a better understanding of non-conventional sex and go book a kinky session!
What is Kink vs BDSM vs Fetishes?
As the name implies, ‘kink’ is any sexual practice, desire or interest that deviates from traditional sexual norms, known as ‘vanilla’. It encompasses a wide range of activities, preferences and fantasies, including (but not limited to) power dynamics, BDSM and fetishes. For example, one may want to spice things up in the bedroom and enjoy some bondage, that’s kinky play. You don’t need to assume a dominant or submissive role to enjoy it. But someone who practices BDSM likes feeling powerless, so they have their Mistress tie them up. Let’s say they also have a fetish with latex, so their Mistress shows up in a latex catsuit!
While definitions help us make sense of things, there’s no manual for pleasure. Kink is a shade of color in the otherwise immense spectrum of sexuality. Let yourself dive into it!
Now we are all set to learn more about specific kinks!
Feeling Powerless
Pretty much everyone has fantasies. Some are more common than others: being called by that hot boss or teacher to their office, having a forbidden night with your stepmom, getting arrested by a sexy cop with an inclination to abuse their power. But kinky minds can take this up a notch. Lo and behold: The Giantess. This is a fun one: imagine that you are the servant of a giant woman, so large she could easily crush you like an ant or swallow you like a snack if she was pissed. Your duties include to worship and fear her muscular and powerful body. You’re no better than a bug… Being at her mercy is thrilling. Maybe you are not into giantesses, but you would really like to be manhandled and intimidated by a 7-foot amazon. Whatever the case, feeling small and overpowered is a major turn on for some.
However, you definitely don’t need a size difference to feel powerless. A highly requested kink is Homewreck and Blackmail play. What would happen if people found out about your dirty secrets? If your Master e-mailed everyone a copy of each photo and video you’ve taken, every nasty text you’ve sent while horny out of your mind? The thought is mortifying: no one knows that side of you, and for good reason. You would be the shame of the family. A laughing stock for your friends. You would be fired and your wife would divorce you right away. Life as you know it is utterly destroyed. Your Master demands money in exchange for their silence and you don’t even have to think about it. After all, you don’t have a choice anymore, from now on you will be their slave forever… or else.
Pretty intense, huh? We can’t stress enough the importance of communication, boundaries and safe words. We don’t forbid taboo play as long as everything is safe, sane and consensual. Luckily, you can rely on our skilled and experienced models on IndieCamFans.com!
Strict Domination vs Nurturing
But not all kink is cruel in nature. Unfortunately, there are many stereotypes. The first that comes to mind is a sadistic Mistress in a black corset and high heels, whip in hand ready to deliver discipline. This isn’t the only way to be dominant. You can wear a cute pink outfit or a plain t-shirt and you would be no less of a Mistress. You can be soft-spoken and kind. ‘Dominant’ is a headspace which adopts many forms. This is the case for Soft Doms and Mommy Dommes whose authority is firm but gentle. Some get really turned on by nurture and praise. It’s all about finding what makes you tick.
Mind Play
What if you wanted to have someone play with those triggers? A practice known as Mind Play takes this to the extreme. It’s a complex game in which the submissive is slowly persuaded into relinquishing control. Eventually, they will give up all agency and let their Master make decisions for them. ‘Obey’ is their only task, so it’s literally a no-brainer.
The practice of Mind Play usually involves some form of guided coaxing, such as hypnosis. The persuader uses spirals and repetitive commands to encourage certain behavior. This trance-like state can be enhanced by ‘gooning’, a form of masturbation focused on edging or outright denying orgasm for long periods of time. Some also use mind-altering substances like drugs and/or alcohol to amplify the experience, known as Intox-Play.
The desired behavior could be anything: sending large sums of money, disclosing sensitive information, allowing access to bank accounts, credit cards and personal devices, letting themselves be recorded, engaging in sexual behavior they would otherwise refuse (forced bisexuality, for example). This could not be achievable if they wouldn’t have been hypnotized to the point of mindlessly accepting any order, no matter how embarrassing, cruel or dangerous. Hypnosis scenes are heavy, emotionally charged and psychologically complex for both subs and doms so boundaries, safe words and aftercare are essential for playing without risk. It is important to keep an open mind and understand that these types of games are fun and safe if practiced with skill and, most and foremost, consent. Maybe contact an Indie Cam Model and give it a try?
Financial Domination
We have briefly touched on Financial Domination (FinDom for short), so let’s have a closer look. It is a fetish lifestyle in which the finsub desires to give gifts and money to their findom. In this world, subs are called cash cows, ATMs, paypigs and money slaves, while their counterparts are referred to as Findoms/Findommes, Cashmasters and Gods/Goddesses. For finsubs, money and gifts are tokens of adoration. It is not transactional but an act of devotion, which is pleasurable in itself. There are many ways to practice Findom: silent sends, wallet draining games, debt contracts, to name a few. We have many creative FinDommes ready to leave you dry!
If becoming a human ATM isn’t your call, maybe being the third wheel is. Picture this: your Mistress is the only woman you desire, but you are not allowed to touch her. What can be worse than unreciprocated lust? You are forbidden to seek it elsewhere and your job is to be the service boy: ordered to quietly make the bed, prepare drinks and food and clean the mess after she’s had her fun with another guy. One who is worthy of her, unlike yourself. Even worse: you’re forced to watch them, utterly horny and helpless. The shame should be enough to make you leave, but you can’t look away. You may have a cuckold fetish if this sounds like heaven.
Humiliation Kink
Humiliation is a recurring theme when exploring Kink. You are supposed to reject abuse and belittlement but on the contrary, you find yourself begging to perform degrading tasks and fishing for insults as if they were compliments. A popular practice is SPH (Small Penis Humiliation), since few things are more critical for some men than their dicks. This kink plays with the feeling of not meeting society’s expectations. Men are supposed to be big and strong, and that power must reflect on their bodies. If you are small, are you a man at all? How can you satisfy your partners? How can you be respected? You can’t. You know this but need your Mistress to remind you, time and time again, how much of a disappointment you are. A favorite for SPH enthusiasts is the Dick Rating: your Dominant gives you a rate from 1 to 10 with some commentary on your little friend. Moreover, you may not be that small either, but you like feeling like you are not big enough anyways. Like every kink, it’s all about the mind.
Sissy Fetish
Talking about subverting expectations, we can’t leave the Sissy fetish out of the list. It is similar to Crossdressing, in the sense that dressing up feminine is a big part of it, but it is more than that. ‘Sissy’ is a derogatory term used to describe a man who is effeminate and weak. It’s a loaded word for men, as any other used to belittle masculinity. For some, kinky play is an outlet for their feelings of inadequacy, allowing exploration in a safe way. What’s supposed to be shameful and hidden goes on full display, femininity is praised, aspects once perceived as flaws become beautiful and alluring. This process of transformation is called ‘sissification’. It can include a full makeover, or not. The point is to adopt a stereotypically feminine role, in appearance and behavior. Generally, sissies would rather bottom, so pegging, butt plugs, anal training and chastity play are highly requested.
This last one isn’t exclusive to Sissy Play, so let’s learn more about it. Chastity Play is a way to practice orgasm denial by giving the Dom direct control over the Sub’s body. They are put ‘on chastity’ using devices such as cages or belts, which prevent sexual activity. The Dom acts as the keyholder and delays gratification, playing tease and denial games or outright giving the sub a ruined orgasm. However, you don’t need a device to practice orgasm control. You could receive JOI (Jerking Off Instructions) with a countdown and ruin your own orgasm with the help of your Master. That will depend on your skill at self-restraint and obedience.
Pain Play (SM in BDSM)
Developing the physical and mental strength necessary to endure punishment is the goal of many scenes involving Impact Play, besides sexual gratification. Some games include the use of tools (whips, floggers, clamps, pads, rope) and/or stressing positions which have to be maintained by the submissive. The fun part is that you can create infinite scenes, it is just a matter of getting creative with your partner! For example, you could be a sissy who enjoys CBT and be blackmailed into forced bisexuality. Possibilities are endless.
Degradation
Many fetishes revolve around specific substances, textures and activities, some quite controversial and often banned from adult cam sites. This is the case for Toilet Play, which focuses on body waste like urine and faeces. Sometimes it is the sight, texture and smell of waste products that is arousing. For others it is more about a demonstration of dominance or submission: for instance, being used as a human toilet or having one’s bathroom use controlled. Its taboo nature makes it a misunderstood kink but, as you can already guess, we don’t judge here.
The Smoking Fetish is pretty similar in essence. While it is more associated with danger than disgust, it is still a taboo topic. Why would you sexually fixate on it? But think about it. Even with companies being more forward about health risks, our culture still portrays lighting a cigarette as something sexy. The body language around it is linked to power and confidence. Watching bright red-looking lips play with the smoking item can be an enticing sight. Add some power dynamic and you get why some people wish to be human ashtrays. Requests for Spit Play often come in tandem, especially for subs who enjoy being smoked and spat on… Welcome to the last one: the human spit jar.
Clothing Fetishes
Last but not least, let’s talk about some fetishes around clothing. Nudity is usually expected during vanilla sex, but this isn’t always the case for kinky play. Being naked carries a certain level of vulnerability, so this can be exploited in a power dynamic. Your dominant can order you to get fully naked during playtime and pick your outfits as a form of control, while they stay completely clothed. In Femdom, this is called CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male). For others, the sight of some clothing items and fabrics (corsets, latex catsuits, gloves, heels, stockings) is visually appealing. You can request an outfit modelling show with any of our beautiful models, you won’t forget it!
Well, this was quite the ride. And there is still so much out there we couldn’t go through! We hope this introduction gave you a better picture of what Kink looks like on IndieCamFans. We are sure you are finishing this reading feeling curious, hot and bothered, so why don’t you pick the kink you liked the most and give it a try?
Further suggested reading on XBiz: Taboo Porn: A Look at the Ethics and Allure of the Forbidden
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